Suggestions on how to be Happy by RLS
The Oxford Dictionary of Quotations attributes this to Edward Wallis Hoch (1848–1925) and notes that it has been ‘attributed to many other authors.’ Bartlett’s Familiar Quotations adds that it first appeared in the Marion, Kansas, Record, a newspaper owned by Hoch, who was at the time governor of Kansas, “and assumed to have been written by him”. Date not given. Another attribution is to historian James Truslow Adams (1878-1949).
The attribution to RLS predates Wilder: ‘[Stevenson is ] the man who declared that there is so much bad in the best of us and so much good in the worst of us that fault-finding by any of us is an unseemly piece of work’ (Henry de Vere Stacpoole, François Villon, his Life and Times, 1916, p. 245).
2) ‘How to Be Happy’
1. Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.
2. Make the best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.
3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.
4. You can’t please everybody. Don’t let criticism worry you.
5. Don’t let your neighbor set your standards. Be yourself.
6. Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.
7. Never borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones.
8. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy, enmity, grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy.
9. Have many interests. If you can’t travel, read about new places.
10. Don’t hold post-mortems. Don’t spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes. Don’t be one who never gets over things.
11. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.
12. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.’